Milk Bath // Aeryn Walker
Photography: Mark Boyle
My tweet got posted on Q&A tonight (Live Aussie political panel show) tonight.
They say we free-willed sex workers don’t exist exist and that they’ve never seen us on the street protesting for sex work or surrogacy- on the same day they ignored SW’s protesting outside - who they barred from speaking at the panel about SexWork!! Zahra Stardust herself stood outside the Festival of Dangerous Ideas today to hold signs and flyers today and was heckled by security and cops. 0% Sex Workers at the panel! They *know* we exist cause they barred us!!!
Zahra Stardust also had a tweet posted, and the cap is hilarious!
WE ARE NOT BRAINWASHED, DAMAGED, EXPLOITED OR UNICORNS. WE EXIST. YOU KNOW WE DO.
My new hair! I’m a purple nurple and I’ve never been so happy!!
Im tired of living for other people who body police me, thinking that because of my job that I owe them my body in the style they prefer. Seriously, this happens! So much so hat I bought a wig that looks like my old hair to shoot in so I wouldn’t have to deal with enraged man-children. But I love the way I look, and I’m not going to pretend I don’t.
My body is part of my work, but that doesn’t mean you own me as a patron or customer. If you like me for me then my hair color shouldn’t matter. I’ve been told my “naturalness” is the only reason people like me. I’ve been told my brand of alternative doesn’t sell, it’s not hardcore enough. Been told fat doesn’t sell, that I’m too short, too old, too straight, too queer, too shy. If you don’t want to hire me, book me or enjoy my work because you think I’ve ‘ruined’ myself, I don’t care to hear it. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all. Natural Beauty isn’t about being unmodified or fitting a mold. I’m still as natural and beautiful as I ever was with black hair (How people thought that was my natural color is beyond me, but thanks for flattering my styling game!). How silly this is a thing that actually even needs to be talked about, and judging by the feedback I got when I even suggested modifying my hair, it does.
Now I look as vibrant as I feel. I get to wear my favorite colors with me all the time :D
I have a belly
I have large thighs and
I have a big butt
I’m a Purple Nurple and
I love my body <3
Expect more hair photos after I pick up my new styling device, because I can tell you right now, vintage 40s style hair do’s look great on me!
DAT ASS! Prev from my first sexy glamor shoot photos that I ever took, completely unretouched!
Pics » www.NaughtyNerdy.com
Flashback! Pouty hairy pussy and cute curled up toes. Like my nailpolish? ;)
Me and one of my fav babes Gala, I can’t wait for her to get back to Melb!!
"Bitching" eh? For someone taking your stance interesting you went straight up sexist on entry! Empowering in air-quotes too. Noted.
Australia is currently the best in the world for it’s SW policies IMO (despite recent discrimination attempts regarding welfare payments to SWs). I’m still leaving Australia. It’s genocidal (literally, and actively), racist, sexist, classist, policies and actions are disgusting. While I love my job things are taking a very dark turn here. It’s also for many other non political reasons not where I’ve decided I want to spend the rest of my life.
Yes, you are right. The west is rethinking everything including sex work. Multiple countries electing literally nazis, starting up ‘education’ camps, ramping up the xenophobia, racism, classism, homopbobia and general hate, among other things. Discrimination for everyone across the board it seems! SW policy is no different, and bad countries will instate bad things. Isn’t cherry picking examples fun?
The “Nordic model” is terribly flawed and has not been successful. It’s had very dangerous outcomes, which you’d know if you listened to the people it hurt of which there are MANY, and to the government reports and research of countries that have put a variant of it in place, including the models initiator Sweden. I’ll let you search that up on your own. It sounds like you need the education!
Firstly I’d just like to note, Sex work =/= trafficking or sex slavery. Conflating the two is like saying working in retail (be it at somewhere shitty, Gucci or anywhere in between) is the same as working for in a sweatshop, or you know, literally as a slave. Those things are not the same.
Every single industry has abuse, and people who are coerced into doing it, or would rather do something else. People who find their jobs numbing, or brutal, demanding, degrading and so on. Every. Single. Industry. Janitors, fast food workers, builders, farmers, production, actors, soldiers, doctors, office clerks, jailors, mechanics, factory workers and so on. I don’t see people lining up to ban janitorial work and if you go by stereotypes most janitors hate their jobs, are underpaid and feel degraded by the work. Just because you or others would find something degrading doesn’t mean everyone, or the majority does. Period. In some places janitors are paid ok and people don’t mind the work. It’s about society and the way people who both like and dislike that work are treated, not the job itself.
There are different types of sex work, and all types of things at play when it comes to sex work such as race, class, location, sexuality etc, and there is no pretending that the job is the same for everyone, or that that SW lives are perfect. We do not exist in a vacuum. That doesn’t mean the work is inherently bad, or that everyone who does jobs YOU don’t like hates the work. It means some people like it, some people don’t. Period. Exploitation appears in every industry and every place in the world and that’s what needs to be fixed. Be it in farming, sex work, cleaning, or any other labor or job. It means we need to help the people who are being treated like shit, or who don’t want to do that job, and that we need to change the attitudes of stigmatization and discrimination against those who like their jobs, but feel degraded by doing them even though they like the work. Sex Work is no exception
To say that all / most people would only enter into sex work out of sheer desperation, and that it is degrading is insulting, as applied to any field society discriminates against and considers “unworthy” or “lower class” such as cleaners.
There is no evidence supporting the myth that most sex workers are coerced or forced into doing SW, or don’t like their jobs more than any other type of work/industry. Disliking the stigma, harassment, discrimination and shame that comes with it because of societies BS, which is often mistaken as hating the job, is a different issue. On that note multiple studies show that the greatest health risk to SW’s around the world, who do SW on various scales,and are of various classes and races is social stigma and the problems it causes, not the job. Think about that for a moment.
World wide. Not just privileged, white, first world country, high class escorts. Social Stigma isn’t just ‘wah someone was mean to me’. It’s racism, classism, homophobia, transphobia and sexism actively and passively. Social stigma dehumanizes, which is one thing that starts and continues both discriminated sex work and slavery, which is what you’re talking about. Sex work is not the problem. Me using my body in a way I enjoy is not the problem. Anyone using their own body in a way they like is no the problem.
Your attitude and oversimplification is the problem. You deciding to only listen to one side of the problem and ignoring the other, labeling anyone who likes their job as “privileged” and anyone who doesn’t as “victim” and pitting them against each other, which derails actual progress, is the problem. Supporting short sighted, band-aid measures which actively hurts sex workers, such as the “Nordic Model” instead of addressing the underlying issues that cause abuse, discrimination and people being coerced into situations that are harmful to them, such as dehumanization, racism, classism, poverty, sexism and so in is the problem.
I won’t be answering any more questions, replies or anything else regarding this topics or similar topics. Each of us has a choice to make about how we make the world better and I’ve very clearly stated mine. Educate yourselves, or don’t. Think what you will.
Anecdotal and Misc Links from earlier readings today in no particular order:
Spoiled, rich douche-bags are an irritating commodity. “Why is your budget for xyz only $x? Surely your business is worth more to you than that, you can just claim it on tax!” What the actual fuck for so many reasons. Claiming something back on tax = having the money to buy it first. How many expenses do you think I have? I’m not sure what some assholes assume a regular persons salary is (Yes, I’m a regular person!) but clearly anyone who thinks that way has too much money for their own good, and with an attitude like that probably doesn’t deserve it!~
This is what happens when I go through old photos while listening to Nox Arcana and think about playing Demon: The Fallen
Last night at boardgames night, I won Small Worlds! Also played Terra Mystica and BSG with all the expansions, first time playing with Daybreak.